Your life is what you make it, no one is in charge of your happiness but you, worry about things you have control over, you don't have to be in contol all the time let someone else be in charge it is a welcoming change, be pissed at what you are pissed at and don't take it out on the wrong people, never let problems at work becoming problems at home, if you have body issues then do what it takes to fix them, lose weight, work out, eat better, coming from someone who recently lost 55 lbs you will feel better. Let go of your sexual hang-ups, if someone tells you you are sexy then be sexy, don't be affraid to try new things even if you are unsure, you never know you might enjoy yourself. So, to sum it up, stop being uptight, learn to relax, fuck more, cum as often as possible it is not a selfish act, post a picture, make a video or two and watch, it is a turn on if you can look past body imperfections cause we all have them, watch other peoples videos and let yourself get turned on, buy a rabbit vibrator I love mine and watch yourself using it, learn to be more vocal, ask for what you want don't be shy, leave the lights on, ask your partner what they want, give anal a try, lots of lube and a cocktail or two and you might just like it, give a little anal, talk dirty, have someone talk dirty to you, learn how to be a tease, try to be the person you want to be even if that means not being the person you have always been. Learn that people are sexual beings and let them be just that with out judging because the only person judging you is you. Hope you all have a great new year!